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How does a Rhode Island divorce lawyer who is seemingly competent make the mistake of advising clients and people in general, through writings, articles, press releases or other literature or publications that Rhode Island is a NO FAULT state when it comes to divorce? 

I've seen this on several lawyer's websites and I've seen this on generic legal sites that try to entice you to come to their sites so they can help hook you up with a legal referral service from which I can only presume they receive some kind of kickback or monetary remuneration. 

Yet for heaven's sake, should a lawyer at least get the fundamentals right!  It's no wonder lawyers have a bad name when lawyers go out of their chosen field of expertise and give answers that are incorrect simply because they don't want to lose a client or appear inept.  This becomes a stereotype that is then applied to all lawyers.

Well, let me set the record straight.  Any lawyer, whether they are licensed to practice law in Rhode Island or not, who tells you that Rhode Island is a NO FAULT state when it comes to divorce, simply does not know what they are talking about.  Frankly, if after reading this article you go ahead and hire such a lawyer then you deserve exactly what you get.

This is and should be an easy question for any Rhode Island lawyer who professes to practice before the Rhode Island family courts.  Even if it isn't know off the top of the lawyer's head, he or she should be able to look up the answer in a matter of 60 seconds.

Here's a quick lesson.  A state that is considered a NO FAULT divorce state is one in which divorces are not granted based upon the fault of either party.  In other words all grounds for divorce in that "NO FAULT" state are not based on the fault of either party.

I've heard it stated by Rhode Island lawyers and I've even seen it published by Rhode Island lawyers that Rhode Island is a NO FAULT divorce state.   WRONG!  WRONG!  WRONG!

Frankly, I don't have to tell you it's wrong at all.  The Rhode Island General Assembly that makes the laws of our state has already said it.

Though Rhode Island Family Court judges and most parties prefer divorces that are based on irreconcilable differences (which WOULD be a NO FAULT divorce) that is not the only grounds for divorce.   The following section of the Rhode Island General laws spells out the additional grounds for divorce as follows:

§ 15-5-2  Additional grounds for divorce. – Divorces from the bond of marriage shall also be decreed for the following causes:

   (1) Impotency;

   (2) Adultery;

   (3) Extreme cruelty;

   (4) Willful desertion for five (5) years of either of the parties, or for willful desertion for a shorter period of time in the discretion of the court;

   (5) Continued drunkenness;

   (6) The habitual, excessive, and intemperate use of opium, morphine, or chloral;

   (7) Neglect and refusal, for the period of at least one year next before the filing of the petition, on the part of the husband to provide necessaries for the subsistence of his wife, the husband being of sufficient ability; and

   (8) Any other gross misbehavior and wickedness, in either of the parties, repugnant to and in violation of the marriage covenant.

Now, if any Rhode Island lawyer who professes to you that Rhode Island is a NO FAULT state.  Please have him or her explain to you how each of these items lacks a condition or action by either one or both parties that is not fault based.  Then, please give me a call and explain it to me.

My point is simply this.  Rhode Island is NOT a NO FAULT divorce state.  This is an easy way to determine if the lawyer you are considering engaging for your divorce matter knows what he or she is talking about or not.  If you ask the lawyer if Rhode Island is a NO FAULT divorce state and he or she says "yes" . . . then I highly recommend finding a new lawyer to interview.

Rhode Island law provides for persons subject to physical violence or threats that create a reasonable fear of imminent physical harm to obtain from the court an Order of Protection for that physical violence or threat of imminent physical harm.

This Order is most often sought by women who represent to the court that they are in fear of their husband or significant other based upon some recent conduct he has done.  The Order typically restrains and enjoins the man from harassing, molesting, stalking, cyber-stalking or in any way contacting the complainant at home, at work or on the street.  The  Order may also require the threating party to leave the marital home or the residence where both parties may reside until the matter may be heard within three (3) weeks after the judge grants the initial Order based solely upon the claimant's affidavit.

Perhaps the biggest mistake serious complainants who have been threatened or harmed make is to appear at the hearing three (3) weeks later without a Rhode Island family law lawyer and dismiss the complaint.  This could be for any number of reasons, including a change of heart, a continued hope that the abuser will change, guilt associated with excluding the father from his home or children, or pressure from other family members.

I mention this because most often what occurs is this.  The abuser is allowed to continue the course of conduct he or she has caused or is not taught that this conduct is unacceptable.  Abusers typically will continue to contact the complainant even after they have been served with the Protection from Abuse Order.  Regrettably, the complainant who has obtained the Protection from Abuse Order allows this conduct and does not call the police to have the Order enforced.  Unfortunately, it is often because the "contact" is often apologetic, endearing and pleading by the abuser in an effort to get the complainant to do exactly what I have mentioned here, namely to go to the court hearing in three (3) weeks and drop the Protection from Abuse Order.

What the complainant should be considering are questions such as the ones listed below in order to avoid making a big mistake.

1)  How long have you had a relationship with the abuser?

2)  How extreme was the conduct of the abuser when compared to the length of the relationship

3)  Is this a one time instance of abuse or has the abusive conduct been gradually increasing?

4)  If you have children, will this choice be the best for the child or children or will you be subjecting them to further abuse?

5)  Are you being guilted into this decision?  Or are family members pressuring you to drop this?

6)  Do you honestly believe that the abuser has changed in just a few short weeks

Complainants should seriously question their decision to drop a Protection from Abuse Order.  The law is there to protect you.  If your complaint is genuine, the use of the law is appropriate and you could return to court in the future to ask the court to remove the Protection from Abuse Order.  However, it is unwise to disillusion yourself into thinking that the abusing party has changed in such a short period of time.

To the contrary, if you have used the system simply to teach the "alleged abuser" a lesson, then do the court and everyone else a favor and drop the restraining order.  You are wasting your time, the court's time and resources and misusing the law for your own purposes which the law wasn't intended to address.

In a Rhode Island Divorce are there any Do's and Don'ts I should be aware of right at the beginning of the proceedings?

ANSWER:  Yes.

DO's

1)  Remember that the court is looking for equity and fairness between the divorcing parties.

2)  Think of how the Rhode Island Family Court Judge might look at an action you are contemplating taking before you take it.

3) Get the advice of your divorce attorney before taking any actions relating to assets, debts, or any financial accounts that are in your name or you have with your spouse.

4)  Keep your emotions under control in the court house and especially in the courtroom unless you or your attorney believe that your natural expression of emotion will not hurt your case.

5)  Remain civil with all court personnel under all circumstances.  The Rhode Island Family Court personnel keep abreast of what is going on and information about parties and their demeanor may travel to the judge's ears and hurt your case.  (i.e. Linda files a divorce and requests immediate relief from the court but is rude to the assistant clerk handling the filing of Linda's papers. When Linda delivers the file upstairs to the Judge's sheriff the assistant clerk mentions to the Sheriff that the woman associated with this file was very rude and demanding to her downstairs.  The judge overhears this conversation which occurs right outside his or her chambers.  This may or may not affect the judge's decision on your request for relief . . . but there is no reason to take that chance. 

This list is by no means exhaustive.  More DO's will be provided in other articles.

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