Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coaching Tips from the Founder of Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coaching Attorney, Christopher A. Pearsall!: Necessity for Divorce Lawyers Archives

Not every Rhode Island divorce requires each party, or either party to hire a Rhode Island divorce lawyer to represent them.

I've thought about this divorce concept for more than five (5) years now. Every week I get calls about Rhode Island divorces. Most of the time people are shopping to either free advice or an attorneys' rate for a simple uncontested Rhode Island divorce.

Why is that? It's because money is the big issue with people these days and it doesn't take a Rhode Island lawyer to know that an uncontested divorce is going to cost less than a contested or bitter divorce. So people just use their common sense and ask for the rate for a simple, uncontested divorce even if they really don't understand what it means for a divorce to be truly "uncontested."

But is asking for a Rhode Island lawyer's rate for their divorce as a simple or uncontested divorce just about the money? Possibly not.

Some attorneys in Rhode Island find this kind of phone lawyer shopping offensive. I can understand that. After all, divorces aren't a one size fits all thing. Or at least they shouldn't be. After all, since no two people are EXACTLY alike in the world then it makes sense that now two divorces which involve two people are never EXACTLY alike, right? Isn't it only common sense?

Yet let's remove the Rhode Island divorce cost factor from the picture. Let's assume it doesn't exist at all. What is another reason for asking any question about a simple, uncontested or amicable Rhode Island divorce? Could it be because the person wants to be amicable, or simple, or uncontested? Sure.

So imagine you are an attorney. A person calls you with questions about a simple, amicable, uncontested Rhode Island divorce. If you leave out the cost of the divorce, you might actually have a person on the phone who wants to be amicable and not have a contested divorce. Consider it for a moment.

You are an attorney and you may now have 1/2 of the divorcing couple in a friendly position who wants to be agreeable and resolve the divorce. Is it possible that basically 50% of the job of getting to friendly/nominal divorce hearing is already present? It is absolutely possible. In fact, if the person doesn't have that much money and he or she is attorney shopping for the most affordable lawyer on an amicable Rhode Island divorce, doesn't it make sense that the cost factor is also pushing the person to be amicable and keep the divorce uncontested? It not only makes sense, it is highly probable.

So why do I see our Rhode Island Family Court divorce calendars filled with cases that people aren't resolving by the Friendly Court Hearing Date (aka Nominal Hearing Date)?

I've watched and considered this interesting Rhode Island divorce phenomenon for over a year now. Now while I do represent people with more complicated cases, I coach even more people to manage their own divorces, represent themselves, work out agreements with their own spouses, and even co-parent better.

There are two factors I have identified.

One factor is when one spouse who can't or won't come to terms with a divorce. This could be due to the spouse being unreasonable, mental health issues, or pure bitterness and anger.

The other factor is the involvement of one or more attorneys involved in the case who create conflict in the divorce sometimes knowingly, sometimes unknowingly.

To be sure divorces can be emotional. They are too susceptible of tipping from a simple uncontested divorce to a contested, drawn out divorce. Too much of it is seen these days. Some days it literally pervades the atmosphere in the courtroom.

In short, I created coaching to help people and not to put anything even remotely amounting to a substantial amount of money in my pocket. Certainly I'm no saint, I still have to charge for what I do or frankly I won't be eating or I'll be freezing during the winter.

Yet, divorce in our economy right now appears to be on the rise and while I certainly won't profess that in any way I stop it from happening, I felt I had to do something with my skills to make it easier.

So Rhode Island Divorce Coaching was created by me as a solo practicing Rhode Island lawyer. I focus my entire practice on divorce and family law but I will certainly tell you that my mother raised me well. She raised me to help others when I can, to fight against what's wrong without violence, and to do what is right when I can.

So here I am doing what I can. I'm not in a position to represent people or coach for free but I'm doing what I can. When people come to me for representation I may do so, but if I feel that there is any chance that they can properly make it through their divorce using my coaching sessions, then I explain the difference and recommend the coaching when appropriate.

One Rhode Island Divorce Coaching session is only $135. I provide a full hour of time. During your session I learn about you, your marriage, your family, your assets, your debts, your income, your education and factors in your family that may be considered in a divorce. I also the take time to explain to you important aspects of Rhode Island Divorce Process and it's Procedures, important Rhode Island Divorce laws (aka RI Domestic Relations Laws); uncontested divorce proceedings, contested divorce proceedings, the different things the Family Court will want to hear about and what you should discuss with your spouse and answers to your most important questions and concerns. Lastly, I help you determine whether you truly need a lawyer to represent you or not and discover what might work best for you based upon your personality and what we have discussed during our confidential coaching session.

That's quite a bit to cover for only $135. One kind woman came to me for a single session after going through three (3) lawyers, over an eight (8) month period of time to the tune of about $7,500 and had this nice statement to make about my service.

"I wish I had found you sooner Chris. It's sad to find out that what I learned from you in one hour was more than I learned from all my the other attorneys I hired for the past 8 months."

This was perhaps the best unsolicited testimonial I could have ever received. For sake of confidentiality and privacy I do not reveal the names of my clients with testimonials because I work with them in the background and I respect their privacy. However, I can state without hesitation that this is a verbatim quote from an actual client.

Many clients have represented similar sentiments, compliments and testimonials.

Imagine how much help I can be to you and the damage I might prevent if you met with me just one time. Isn't it worth $135.00 to be informed about what happens, be prepared for what might come, and peal away the veil of mystery that causes the fear and anxiety associated with divorce proceedings.

I'm just a call away and I look forward to helping you!

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Yes, Rhode Island divorce lawyers are necessary if you have a matter before a Rhode Island Family Court.

Why? Simple.... you need to know what you are doing and unless you are able to teach yourself everything there is about family law like an experienced divorce lawyer then you need someone to guide you on the path.

Are divorce lawyers necessary for representation in every family law case? In my humble opinion they are not.

Are divorce lawyers necessary to guide people in every family law case before the Rhode Island Family Law courts? I believe they most certainly are.

It is one thing to do everything by yourself with only yourself to rely upon why you are out of your field of expertise, but it is an entirely different matter to dive into a courtroom with more than a 100 years of law and legal precedent behind you without any professional legal guidance and reasonably expect the result you were shooting for.

You will not find me recommending that you should go through your own divorce or other Rhode Island Family law matter without professional legal coaching. To me, it's foolhardy. A divorce is an important part of your life. It is not something you leave to chance and then hope you can patch up any mistakes later.

It is too easy for you to cause and error that even the best lawyer can't undo in family court all because you didn't have any guidance and thought you knew better than the professionals.

This is precisely why I offer my coaching program. It's affordable. It allows you to save money in between coaching sessions. It even affords you the opportunity to use me as your coach for as many or as few coaching sessions as you like. Thus, you control the amount of time you spend coaching and how much effort you are willing to put into your own divorce instead of money.

At every turn you have an affordable solution that leaves you as the coaching client in control of the process, how much time is spent and how much money is spent. Plus, YOU are in control of your own case yet have experienced professional legal guidance to help you along the way.

Divorce Coaching is the process of having a professional teach you how to properly represent yourself while insuring that you are advised of the possibilities and alternatives available to you and as many reasonably possible consequences that may result from your choice of the various alternatives. Yet the choice is YOURS! You are not controlled by the attorney your hire in representation as is often the case, but rather you hold the reigns.

You determine your destiny! You decide what happens regarding your children, your assets, your debts, the direction your case takes, and the direction your case will take.

Do you know what you're doing in your Rhode Island Family Law Matter?

Wouldn't it be useful to have a roadmap with all the intricate backroads and important stops along the way? Could you seriously get from New York City to San Antonio, Texas by car if you had never traveled between the two cities before?

Without a roadmap it may take you three times longer if you just go by your gut feeling or try to take shortcuts that you think may be correct only to find yourself lost on a back road without any idea how to get back on track and no idea how to reach your destination!

We're necessary alright? Without us, people are flying blind. You won't know the big picture. You won't know the right steps to take? You won't know how to stay on track. You won't be aware of the pitfalls the may exist along the way. Without divorce lawyers, people in the family court are merely sailboats cast adrift in the middle of an endless ocean with no compass and no sail to chart a direction.

Get coaching today! Don't make yourself a victim of the family court system!