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A Lawyer who hates Lawyers? What is this Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer saying?

By Rhode Island Divorce Coach on July 6, 2010 7:42 PM | 0 Comments | 0 TrackBacks

As a Rhode Island lawyer focusing my practice mostly on divorce coaching these days I look back upon a man who said something to me privately decades ago that perplexed me. This man had been practicing in another state for some 40+ years.

This man was about as true, honorable and generous a gentleman as I have ever met. He embodied everything that I saw in a good lawyer. He truly cared about his clients. He fought for each one of them. Yet he did so within the bounds of the law, within the bounds of his professional ethical code, and with a high degree of morality such as I have never seen before. The lawyer knew that I admired him and had great respect for him as both a person and as a lawyer.

One extremely hot Tuesday afternoon this rather portly lawyer returned to his office after losing a district court hearing. He plopped himself down in the chair at the opposite end of the short conference room table I was sitting at in the office law library. His secretary nervously brought him a lemonade and napkin then quickly skirted out of the room. There was silence. It seemed to go on forever. Finally, I said, "I'm considering becoming a lawyer."

It lasted perhaps two seconds but it seemed like an eternity. The lawyer lifted his partially balding forehead, wiped his brow with the napkin then grabbed a nearby law book and flung it across his small law library. The book smashed against a row of New Hampshire Statutes Annotated. I heard the spine of the hardcover book tear slightly as it fell to the floor.

It was one of the first times I had ever seen this man so angry and upset.

I was quiet. Perhaps my timing was off. This time I kept my big mouth shut and waited until the lawyer spoke. This is what he said.

Lawyer: [Very Loudly though not Shouting] "I HATE LAWYERS!

This time the pause was endless and it seemed very clear the lawyer wasn't going to say anything else. So, I took a chance. I was just too puzzled not to speak.

Chris: "I don't understand. You are a lawyer."

He was quiet for another period of time. I took a chance and asked my question.

Chris: "How can you hate lawyers when you are one? I don't get it."

He waited quite awhile before speaking. I was thankful that there wasn't another hardcover book within the lawyer's reach.

Lawyer: [ A bit calmer . . ] I can't explain it. You have to live it. But I tell you Chris, if you're anything like me you'll know what I mean when you get there.

That was it. The conversation never went further. It was never brought up again to this date.

I've been working in the legal field now for more than 20 years after that conversation.

As a Rhode Island lawyer I am bound by a Professional Code of Ethical Conduct and Rules of Conduct. To some extent there are things that I can say and things, things I shouldn't say and things I am prohibited either from saying or doing. Some of them might amaze the layperson. I know they amaze me. Morality and Personal Professional Ethics are another ball of wax that are completely different.

The lawyer's name (for lack of a better one just as a point of reference) was Roger.

Hopefully he's still alive and hopefully he is in tune enough with today's "internet" that he reads this article.

So after all the years that have passed I would like to address one statement to this great lawyer and then another one to you as my reader.

First, to this great lawyer.

Roger, I went down the path. Just as you thought, I was very much like you. Thank you for your wisdom. Just as you thought, I understand.

Now, to my readers I offer this.

If you have read my message to Roger then you may not understand the statement I make now until you meet with me.

"If you need a lawyer and you happen to like lawyers then chances are . . you won't like me."

With that said, I can tell you that as a Rhode Island Lawyer who has focused my practice exclusively in the area of divorce and family law, I can't make your problems go away. They are your problems and only you can take responsibility for them and only you have the power to resolve them in your life by your own decisions.

What I can tell you is that I can help you understand and to get through your Rhode Island divorce and family law challenges by working with you as your Coach or by working for you through Representation.

Roger's words were invaluable. Today, they are the powerful force motivating the continued growth of your coaching program. It is a your program specifically because it is designed for you. It is designed to teach you, train you, inform you, and save you time and money in the areas of divorce and family law.

As Your Coaching Program continues to evolve, it will continue to work faster for you, become more economical than it already is for you, become more helpful than it already is for everyone.

Whatever you choose to believe, there is one thing you can know with certainty. I am one lawyer trying to make a difference with a new and innovative way of practice designed by my sacrifices and your willingness to be open to something new that works.

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Speak Out against Judge Laureen D'Ambra on the RI Supreme Court!

By Rhode Island Divorce Coach on November 14, 2009 9:40 PM | 0 Comments | 0 TrackBacks

A call from a lawyer colleague alerted me to the fact that Judge Laureen D'Ambra is being considered as one of the nominees for a position on our Rhode Island Supreme Court was enough to increase my concern for the people of our fair state.

How many stories are there about Judge Laureen D'Ambra and the damage she caused to Rhode Island Families while she was assigned to the domestic calendarin Washington County for two (2) years on the Domestic Calendar?

I know of six (6) families victimized by Judge D'Ambra's actions in the course of her duties as a Rhode Island Associate family court judge and I am convinced there are likely to be many more. Due to bronchitis I am not in a position to write nearly as much as I would like at this time about Judge Laureen D'Ambra and the damage I believe she would invariably cause the people of Rhode Island if she were appointed to the Rhode Island Supreme Court by Governor Carcieri, but after this posting I will get ample rest and begin anew in the morning.

It is my understanding that public comment regarding the Nomination of Judge Laureen D'Ambra for the position of a seat on the Rhode Island Supreme Court will be taken on Tuesday evening. I am uncertain where or exactly when, but I intend to speak out in the very least in the form of a formally documented letter to the Nominating Committee as well as to Governor Carcieri as quickly as possible.

As many of you may know or may have read, I fell victim to Judge D'Ambra in a divorce proceeding in July of 2007, and notwithstanding the "free pass" Judge D'Ambra was given on what were clear and definite violations of her judicial ethical canons, the evasion of any type of reprimand was not, in my humble opinion, due to any substantiated finding that Judge Laureen D'Ambra had not violated her judicial canons, but rather that her ability to escape any sort of punishment was by virtue of other considerations be they political, financial or otherwise in the form of "who she knows."

Though I was not born and raised in Rhode Island, it has come to be my home and most likely will be such until the day I die. Yet there are some travesties that I cannot remain silent on no matter what pressures the powers may be may bring to bear upon me or the threat that I will lose my license to practice law which is my livelihood. I am in no uncertain terms convinced that the appointment of Judge Laureen D'Ambra to a seat on our highest Court is not something I can sit by and allow to happen without some sort of action and call to action for others.

If you have been wronged by Judge Laureen D'Ambra and you have felt that you have had no redress and no way of expressing or righting the injustice done to you, I invite you to be present on Tuesday evening to voice your dissatisfaction with Judge Laureen D'Ambra's nomination and consideration for a seat on our state's highest court.

I know of six cases that I have personally investigated that were unwarranted purely due to Judge D'Ambra's own unknown personal agenda and/or her lack of knowledge or even fundamental due process of law while she was appointed to on the Washington County Family Court's Domestic Relations Calendar in 2006 and 2007.

I urge those who have been wronged by Judge D'Ambra, both citizens and lawyers, to come forward and post to this website, call me, contact Governor Carcieri and do what is necessary and prudent to show your lack of confidence for Judge Laureen D'Ambra's holding a seat in our highest court.

If Judge Laureen D'Ambra was lax and caused damage to citizens of our state and counsel who appeared before her in the family court shortly after she was appointed to the family court's domestic relations calendar in Washington County Family Court, what damage and havoc might be done to our state with this woman as a Rhode Island Supreme Court Justice. The thought is almost unfathomable.

I, for one, cannot stand idly by and say nothing based upon what I know about her conduct in recent years. In my humble opinion her conduct does not speak well of our state, has placed our family court in a bad light before the citizens of this state and cannot and should not be tolerated.

Comment here. Tell your story. Express your views and make a difference. Having seen the operation of our court system for the better part of 20 years now, I have seen a need for improvement such that our image is not labeled by the nation as the most corrupt state in the United States. I do not believe our state would regress by the appointment of Judge Laureen D'Ambra to our highest court. The time to speak is now. Write. Call. Send a letter to Governor Carcieri, but do not put this off. There is no time to waste. The committee and the Governor need your direction in the very least away from a candidate that is likely to injure our state and our citizens. Tomorrow begins another day and a reminder of why I am so strongly against Judge Laureen D'Ambra's consideration in this regard.

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Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers - Top 10 Things They Should Tell You!

By Rhode Island Divorce Coach on December 30, 2008 7:32 PM | 0 Comments | 0 TrackBacks

The Top 10 Things Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers should be telling you!

1. A Divorce Lawyer's Independent Judgment - As his or her RI divorce client, a Rhode Island Divorce lawyer should inform you that you are hiring the lawyer for his or her expertise in this area of law and therefore the attorney retains a certain degree of independent judgment in your matter to protect your interests.

2. Client's Final Say - That as the Rhode Island lawyer's divorce client, you have the authority to reasonably direct the attorney as to the direction and methods involved in your case to the extent that it doesn't excessively class with the attorney's independent judgment and the reason you have hired the lawyer, namely to protect your legal interests.

3. Reasonably Informed -Your Rhode Island Divorce lawyer has the obligation to keep you reasonably informed about matters involving your case, however this does not vitiate your obligation as the client to keep abreast of your legal matter.

4. No Guarantees - The Rhode Island Family Court is not a forum of certainties. In any divorce proceeding there are factors that no lawyer can predict and these factors can vastly affect the outcome. No lawyer can guarantee any result in a divorce matter, except that a divorce will be granted to a party who is able to prove his or her case.

5. No Win Situation - No one wins in Rhode Island Family Court in a divorce. It is those who reasonably resolve their differences equitably and resolve themselves to moving on with their lives with dignity losing less of their lives, their time, their money, their energy and their self-esteem who benefit most from the Rhode Island Divorce process.

6. Leave Vendettas at the Door - Divorce proceedings are not a forum for settling personal vendettas. The Rhode Island Family Court is intended through it's divorce process to assist married couples in the protection of their children and the proper separation of their assets and debts so that each party can most equitably continue with their lives.

7. Realistic Expectations - Having Realistic expectations consistent with the circumstances of your marriage are the fundamental key to a proper and timely resolution to a divorce in the least difficult manner for all parties.

8. Legal Rights versus Practical Application - Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers should be telling you both your legal rights and the practical outcome of asserting those rights since the advocacy of your legal rights may be entirely different in practice than as is contained in statutes or case law.

9. Judicial Discretion - Rhode Island Family Court judges are empowered with substantial discretion. Each case is different. Each judge may exercise his or her discretion differently.

10. Three Unpredicatable Factors - There are three factors that are likely to be unpredictable to one or both parties at the outset of a divorce case and substantially affect each and every case. The three factors are (1) your spouse's response / posture in the divorce case, (2) the divorce lawyer(s) your spouse engages to represent him or her, and (3) the judge assigned to the case. Each of these factors can have a substantial and unexpected impact on your divorce and its end result.

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