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Dear Rhode Island Divorce Coach,

I need help and I can't afford to hire a Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer or even pay your coaching fee.  Yes, financially I'm doing pretty bad since I got laid off after 15 years.  I've made good money but now unemployment is going to run out and I don't even know how I'm going to afford food or rent.  She just want's child support again for my son again and she says it's my problem.

My ex and I have been divorced for almost 9 years.  We had two kids together.  My daughter is 19 years old and she's going to Rhode Island Community College and doing great.  My son a great kid.  He is somewhat learning disabled and I've been told he has the mental age of 13 even though he's almost 21 years old.  

The Rhode Island family court terminated my child support for my daughter just shortly after she turned 18 and again for my son at age 19.

My ex-wife is taking me back into court to get child support for my son.  She says she'll get it because he is learning disabled and is still living at home with her.

There's no chance she can do, is there?  I mean, once the court tells me I don' t have to pay anymore I'm done, right?

J from Pawtucket.

The Rhode Island Divorce Coach's Answer:
      
     J.  I certainly can't give you an exact answer because lawyers don't make the decisions, it's the Judge's that do that and it is all based upon all the circumstances and I can never be sure if you've given me all the circumstances or how a judge might view them depending upon how they are presented in court.

     I can tell you that effective July 9, 2011 the law regarding this subject changed.  Specifically, General Laws 15-5-16.2(b) which provides the fundamental considerations the court must consider when determining the child support for children who have a severe physical or mental impairment and are still living with or under the care of a parent even beyond the child's emancipation date as set forth in the statute (deemed to be 19 years old at the latest) has been modified.

While the Rhode Island Family court was already afforded the power to issue a child support order for the severely physically or mentally disabled child beyond the age of 19 in its discretion provided the court found that continued child support was warranted under the circumstances.  

Now, in your case you have told me that before the law was changed your child support obligation for your son was terminated by the family court.  You don't mention anything about whether the court determined if your son with physically or mentally impaired, or if your son was living with either you or your ex-wive at the time your child support obligation for him was terminated, so I will address the change in the law.  You should then apply what the change in the law states to your situation since it would be improper for me to speculate on your situation without asking you further questions during a paid coaching session.

Rhode Island General Laws 15.5-16.2 (b) which provides the factors a court must consider when deciding to expand child support beyond a child's 19th birthday has been amended.  As of July 9, 2011, the following addition was inserted after the factors the court must consider.

"If a child support order for a child with a severe physical or mental impairment has been terminated, suspended or expired, the court shall consider the factors in this paragraph and has the discretion to order child support for this child prospectively based upon established child support guidelines."

Essentially this law seems to give the Rhode Island Family Court the power to award child support on a "going forward basis" even after a child's 19th birthday if the child has or had * a "severe physical or mental impairment" and a child support order for that child was terminated, suspended, or expired.  

However, in a nut shell it now makes it possible for your ex-wife to at least petition the court for a continuation of child support if the court determines that your son's condition constitutes a severe physical or mental impairment.

Therefore, based upon the new addition to the law, it IS possible that your ex-wife could take you back to court and be awarded child support for your son on a going forward basis even if your child support was previously terminated provided the court finds that your son's condition meets all the criteria required by that law.

You will want to look at cases determining what constitutes a severe physical or mental impairment under other Rhode Island cases.

I'm sorry that the answer isn't as simple as you might like it.  However, the law can get very complex and often rests on different interpretations and arguments that can be made.  That's why it is always important, in the very least, to seek the advice of an experienced divorce and family law practitioner on matters such as these.

[ *Important Note on Bolded Text:  It is unclear from this addition in Rhode Island General Laws 15-5-16.2(b) whether the child had to have the severe physical or mental impairment (a) At the time the previous Rhode Island child support order was issued, (b) At the time the previous Rhode Island child support order was terminated, or (c) whether the child could have acquired the severe physical or mental impairment at any time after the date the child support order that was terminated was made by the court. ]

I hope you found this of help to you.  Should you need any further assistance, please contact me for an affordable legal advice or Rhode Island Family Law Coaching session from an experienced Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law and Divorce Lawyer and Coach.

My best of luck to you J.

RI Child Support Question for The Rhode Island Divorce Coaching Lawyer!

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Question: I just got served child support paperwork for a child I haven't seen in 10 years. I paid about $50/week between 2001 and 2002 and then she just up and moved without letting me know. I had no idea where she went and she left no forwarding address. Can she legally ask me for back child support when she left town? I will pay child support going forward (a paternity test will be established first), but I don't think I should pay 10 years worth from the past when she took him away from me.


Reply: If you had an existing child support order through the Rhode Island Family Court you had an obligation to keep paying it. There is virtually always a way to find the mother and the child if you do some investigation. In the very least you should have paid it to the Rhode Island Family Court Child Support Enforcement Department so you would not be in contempt of the court's order to pay continuing support for your child. 

If there was, in fact, a child support Order from the Rhode Island Family Court in effect then your child support debt would accumulate interest at a rate of 12%. If you did not have a child support Order issued by the Rhode Island Family Court then the mother of the child is only legally entitled to ask for the court to award her child support retroactive to the date she filed the Motion to Adjudge You In Contempt or to otherwise require you to pay your Rhode Island Child Support Order from the date her Motion for Payment of Child Support was filed. The retroactive part of the court's award, with or without the 12% interest per annum is in the discretion of the judge. Ultimately the obligation to insure you pay court ordered child support is on you and not the mother of the child. 

It does not matter if the mother took off with the child or not. Your Rhode Island visitation rights and your obligation to pay child support for the support of your child are completely separate and distinct. A parent does not pay money for child support in order to have the right to see their child. Also, the money for child support is to support the child, it does not entitle you to see your child. In other words, child support payments and visitation are completely separate. 

If there was no Rhode Island Child Support Order that says you have to pay a certain amount of money each week, month, etc . . . then the mother of the child may only ask the judge to award her Rhode Island child support retroactive to the date her motion was filed and that should be specifically requested in her Motion if she is requesting retroactive child support when no Child Support Order was ever established by the Court. If there was an actual Child Support Order in place and you have not paid child support in 10 years then you should get a lawyer. If a judge were to find you in contempt of an existing Child Support Order it is always possible that you could be sentenced to the Adult Correctional Institution for failure to abide by the court's order among other things. 

Unfortunately, whether the woman left with your child or not, if there is Rhode Island Child Support in place then it is your job to protect yourself by, in the least, paying the child support that was ordered to the Rhode Island Child Support Enforcement Division of the Rhode Island Family Court. 

If you need further assistance and/or advice, I offer legal advice and coaching sessions relating to each person's specific facts and situation for an affordable rate. Whatever you decide to do, 

I wish you the very best in this difficult situation no matter what you decide to do.


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As a Rhode Island lawyer focusing my practice mostly on divorce coaching these days I look back upon a man who said something to me privately decades ago that perplexed me.  This man had been practicing in another state for some 40+ years.

This man was about as true, honorable and generous a gentleman as I have ever met.  He embodied everything that I saw in a good lawyer.  He truly cared about his clients.  He fought for each one of them.  Yet he did so within the bounds of the law, within the bounds of his professional ethical code, and with a high degree of morality such as I have never seen before.  The lawyer knew that I admired him and had great respect for him as both a person and as a lawyer.  

One extremely hot Tuesday afternoon this rather portly lawyer returned to his office after losing a  district court hearing.  He plopped himself down in the chair at the opposite end of the short conference room table I was sitting at in the office law library.  His secretary nervously brought him a lemonade and napkin then quickly skirted out of the room.  There was silence.  It seemed to go on forever.  Finally, I said, "I'm considering becoming a lawyer."

It lasted perhaps two seconds but it seemed like an eternity.  The lawyer lifted his  partially balding forehead, wiped his brow with the napkin then grabbed a nearby law book and flung it across his small law library.  The book smashed against a row of New Hampshire Statutes Annotated.  I heard the spine of the hardcover book tear slightly as it fell to the floor.

It was one of the first times I had ever seen this man so angry and upset.

I was quiet.  Perhaps my timing was off.  This time I kept my big mouth shut and waited until the lawyer spoke.  This is what he said.

Lawyer:  [Very Loudly though not Shouting] "I HATE LAWYERS! 

This time the pause was endless and it seemed very clear the lawyer wasn't going to say anything else.  So, I took a chance.  I was just too puzzled not to speak.

Chris:  "I don't understand.  You are a lawyer."
    
He was quiet for another period of time.  I took a chance and asked my question.

Chris:  "How can you hate lawyers when you are one?  I don't get it."

He waited quite awhile before speaking.   I was thankful that there wasn't another hardcover book within the lawyer's reach.

Lawyer:  [ A bit calmer . .  ]   I can't explain it.  You have to live it.  But I tell you Chris, if you're anything like me you'll know what I mean when you get there.

That was it.  The conversation never went further.  It was never brought up again to this date.

I've been working in the legal field now for more than 20 years after that conversation.  

As a Rhode Island lawyer I am bound by a Professional Code of Ethical Conduct and Rules of Conduct.  To some extent there are things that I can say and things, things I shouldn't say and things I am prohibited either from saying or doing.  Some of them might amaze the layperson.  I know they amaze me.  Morality and Personal Professional Ethics are another ball of wax that are completely different.

The lawyer's name (for lack of a better one just as a point of reference) was Roger.

Hopefully he's still alive and hopefully he is in tune enough with today's "internet" that he reads this article.

So after all the years that have passed I would like to address one statement to this great lawyer and then another one to you as my reader.

First, to this great lawyer.

Roger, I went down the path.  Just as you thought, I was very much like you.  Thank you for your wisdom.  Just as you thought, I understand. 

Now, to my readers I offer this.

If you have read my message to Roger then you may not understand the statement I make now until you meet with me.

"If you need a lawyer and you happen to like lawyers then chances are . . you won't like me."

With that said, I can tell you that as a Rhode Island Lawyer who has focused my practice exclusively in the area of divorce and family law, I can't make your problems go away.  They are your problems and only you can take responsibility for them and only you have the power to resolve them in your life by your own decisions.

What I can tell you is that I can help you understand and to get through your Rhode Island divorce and family law challenges by working with you as your Coach or by working for you through Representation.

Roger's words were invaluable.  Today, they are the powerful force motivating the continued growth of your coaching program.  It is a your program specifically because it is designed for you.  It is designed to teach you, train you, inform you, and save you time and money in the areas of divorce and family law.

As Your Coaching Program continues to evolve, it will continue to work faster for you, become more economical than it already is for you, become more helpful than it already is for everyone.

Whatever you choose to believe, there is one thing you can know with certainty.  I am one lawyer trying to make a difference with a new and innovative way of practice designed by my sacrifices and your willingness to be open to something new that works. 

What can Your Coaching Program Help You With?

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and many more . . . 

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