Divorce can be heart wrenching. In fact, it can be so earth shattering that it can cause your spouse to do things he or she wouldn't otherwise do. This can lead to some pretty devastating consequences if you aren't aware of it or simply trust that "my spouse would never do that".
Examples are always best. Consider this one.
Charlie has been married to Victoria for about 22 years. The children are fairly well grown and in their late teens.
Charlie sees Victoria as very spoiled and unreceptive to him. He tries to talk to his wife about it but she doesn't want to hear about it. Victoria is from an old fashioned italian family and getting a divorce in Rhode Island isn't even something she'd consider.
Charlie runs into an old friend, Carrie. They have some coffee and talk about old times. Charlie has a good time just talking with someone for years.
Charlie comes home happy after a nice chat with Carrie and Victoria suspects something more is going on.
Victoria starts following Charlie around and finds him having coffee and lunch with Carrie on a few separate occasions.
Victoria confonts Charlie very harshly about it and asks him what is going on. Charlie explains that he can't seem to talk with her anymore so when he met up with an old friend they've been getting together to talk and catch up on old times.
Neither Charlie nor Victoria mention getting a divorce or that the situation is even that bad. Victoria is angry and she yells and screams at Charlie so that he gets in his car and leaves. He comes back later after he thinks Victoria has calmed down. Victoria's car isn't in the driveway.
Charlie drives into the drive way and goes into the house. Victoria has not calmed down. She accuses Charlie of having an affair and cheating on her. As Charlie tries to calm Victoria down she starts pushing Charlie and then hitting him with spatulas as they make their way into the kitchen.
They make their way out the kitchen door into the driveway and Charlie sees that Victoria's car was hidden in the backyard.
Victoria runs out to Charlie's car and starts rifling through it looking for any evidence of this "mistress" or an affair, .... something..... anything.
Charlie begs her to calm down. Then she starts ripping open his seats with her car keys. Charlie reaches into the card door and takes hold of Victoria's arm to pull her out of the car. Victoria comes out of the car and slashes his arm with her keys and she tears Charlie's shirt.
As Charlie's shirt rips Victoria falls back on her butt and notices that their daughter is near the window. Victoria starts screaming "Help" and "He's Beating me". Neighbors come out. The daughter comes out and the next thing you know, the police have been called and Charlie is arrested and convicted for domestic assault and prohibited from returning to his house.
Charlie never expected that Victoria would do such a thing. To some of us it is unfathomable that the prospect of divorce or the possibility of betrayal would cause someone to hide cars, accuse our spouse of infidelity, stalk other people and even set them up for criminal charges.
Is Rhode Island Divorce potentially in your future? Are you a man? Be wary! Be careful! Be mindful!
Authored by:
Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
PEARSALL LAW ASSOCIATES
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Cranston, RI 02910
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